There is a symbolic circle that represents a bond between two (or more, depending on your preference) people. An important accessory that shows devotion, commitment, and dedication.
To an outsider of the kink community, a collar on a human is seen as an insult or as a joke. Either it is scene as a mockery of slavery or as an easy joke for those on the prude side of the scale. Cuffs, rope, and dress ties are seen as fun to many; but bring up a collar and you can feel the judgement.
One can wear a collar for a one time kink adventure. All you have to do is visit your local pet, hardware, or sex store and pick one up. But to be collared, by a partner, is as monumental as becoming engaged. For some there is a public ceremony, for others it is a private moment. And the collar itself isn’t a quick pick up on the way home before the liquor store and after getting gas. It was carefully chosen to either be worn twenty-four/seven or only during intimate moments. It can be as simple as an everyday gold band or as complicated as bands of leather with polished buckles. A physical representation of a sexual agreement between to consenting adults which involves profound levels of trust and allegiance. The collar can heighten a sexual relationship, making a clear statement about who makes the rules and who follows them.
A collar is more then a political hot topic or a party joke. For those who participate, it is a wedding ring with a lovely kinky undertone. It is a safety net, rule enforcer, and proclamation of admiration.
Don’t knock it until you try it.